Hot Day

Va. like some other states, requires a yearly safety inspection, which covers much that the  定期的 rip off, er 車検 covers, but at a much lower price.  Knew I was going to need front brake pads (the start & stop stuff here is hard on the brake pads), but was told the rotors too were worn down beyond what is safe, so $350 more to keep the Quaalude running.

Now with one car logistics/transportation is a problem. We have neighbors who use the same shop and whenever, we always dropped what we were doing to give whoever a lift.  Not for me this time. Called yesterday and was told no way.  So, a 2.5 hike each way.   With the humidity, I will need a bath tonight!


Now on the way, I spotted  this off  in the distance.



Came closer and a Virginia Tech U. flag caught the eye, moved a bit closer and saw what it was, a small memorial for one of those murdered at the Virginia Tech shooting , Mary Read. 



My guess it was erected in her memory partly by her family. They, the surviving family that is, had fashioned a small makeshift shrine of sorts along the same road, but facing the cul-de-sac  where she had lived, until I suppose this was built.  I had had no idea the family lived close by either,  perhaps a 10 minute walk from the house.  I only knew of this when on the day many of those murdered in the shooting were laid to rest.  I had pulled in to the road leading to our house and spotted  a cluster of neighbors standing along the road.  Asked why and was told the funeral procession would pass by shortly and they wanted to pay their respects.

When the hearse (which passed by the cul-de-sac  first) passed by, I'll have to admit  to a chill running down the spine.  I remember too her procession was long- think I gave up counting after 40 or so cars had passed by and they still came.

Feel it odd to see this now as a couple of days ago, the medical records of the killer were made public.  Also seemed a bit forlorn as her photograph has greatly faded (don't know if it means anything, but everything faces east) Felt too of waste, the kid probably had great potential, which will never ever be realized, for one has to be bright to get into Virginia Tech, even if in-state and the intellectually lazy will not last there long enough to get a diploma. 

I haven't gone to where it is one can access the killer's medical records, but from what has been reported, it does appear the kid did indeed fall  through he cracks and probably should not have  been at Virginia Tech to begin with. This does help my  somewhat less-than-rosy view of government-paid  counseling services, or government-run anything for that matter.  

 Its a nice small memorial, I wonder if the shrubbery was chose as its leaves  are close to the Virginia Tech colors.  Sad to though that it is at the intersection of 2 very busy roads and those in their cars probably haven't the faintest of what  is there.


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5 Responses to Hot Day

  1. Waterbaby says:

    hmmm. sad, while also touching. and i agree, the shooter was a man who fell through the cracks and shouldn't have … and/or how different had he not …

  2. An Ex-Expat says:

    Going way out on a limb here, but based on what I've observed with the Asian families I know of (Japanese, Korean, Chinese, Indonesian, Filipino) is that perhaps this was an extreme, horribly lethal case of rebellion against the parents.
    In the families I know, uber-achivement is not just valued but expected, and God forbid the day when they don't bring back 'My child is an honor student at..' the bumper sticker. And in the same breath, I am not saying drive and ambition are inherently bad, but the way I see these kids pushed makes me shake my head sometimes.
    I see rebelliousness in my son as well. Natural of course as he's a teenager, but in particular, with his Japanese language class. He is constantly hectored (not by me) about not getting A's. He could get A's and part of the reason is he's not mature enough to understand that having good aural comprehension and being able to speak at home is not good enough; he's got to learn how to read and write as well. But another and bigger part is the constant hectoring he gets and being unfavorably compared to so-and-so, who on the swim team or practices the violin every day, has better grades. This is not the way to motivate him (nor am I motivated by such either) and in response I think he's dug in his heels and is passively flipping the bird by not applying himself more

  3. Waterbaby says:

    I'm sure that's the case, the last paragraph. However, the phenomenon you describe used ot be but is no longer a fairly exclusively Asian one. Western parents are now raising their kids to be robotic super-achievers from day one, pushing their babies into tasks and challenges from the time they're FAR beyond their mental and physical development. It's sick and nothing but ego aggrandizement on the parents' part but some parents love nothing more than to brag how bright their little Johnny is, when he's not, and prepped for college by age 6. As a culture, we still don't mirror the Asian, specifically the Chinese, push for academic achievement and accomplishment but we most definitely have an exploding segment of parents pushing their kids into it at any and all costs at a ridiculously immature age. Damn parents!

  4. An Ex-Expat says:

    That is true. Its ironic, among the reasons I cose to bring son back here to grow up and be educated was to escape the insanity that defines the Japanese public school system experience, but it seems many parents have adopted its worst excesses.

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